His Wife Took a Year Off From Their Marriage To Sleep With Other Men and Write About It—Now Her Ex Is Having His Say
When Robin Rinaldi told her husband, Scott Mansfield that she wanted to take a year off from their 17 year marriage to err, sample other partners, she says that he was understanding. Of course, when he agreed to the experiment, in which they lived as a married couple during the week and on the weekends were free to do whatever or whomever they liked, he didn’t know that she was going to expose all of the details of their relationship in her book, The Wild Oats Project.
Now that her memoir has been released, Scott is speaking out. He said that if he had his druthers, he never would have let his wife sleep with other men.
“It wasn’t something I wanted to do,” the brewer and wine-maker told The Times.
“I didn’t like the idea of opening up our marriage. But if I didn’t do it, I felt we were heading for divorce, so I thought why not take the chance and maybe we can come out the other side?”
Robin said that she finally reached her breaking point when she realized that despite her desire to become a mom, Scott, who had gotten a vasectomy, would never have children with her.
“I knew at that point the discussion of having a baby was over, which kick-started this experience,” she explains.
She wrote in The Wild Oats Project, “I refused to go to my grave with no children and only four lovers… If I couldn’t have one, I must have the other. I looked forward to my death bed and thought, ‘What will I have? I won’t have children and grandchildren. Will I at least have lived fully?'”
“I have had lots of people telling me I should have travelled the world, tried painting classes or cooking – but I already know how to cook!”
However, Scott says that he was always open with Robin about his choice to not become a dad and it shouldn’t have come as a surprise to her.
“Is it cruel to not change your mind about something you believe in?” he said of fatherhood.
During the course of the year-long experiment he revealed that he dated a handful of women, however, he only slept with one of them.
He said, “I enjoyed the feeling of being attracted to other women and getting good feedback. I had a couple of women who said to me: ‘I can’t believe your wife would risk losing you, you’re such an awesome guy,’ so when you hear that, you know, it makes you feel pretty good.”
Today he’s in a long term relationship and Robin is committed to a man she met while she was on a hiatus from her marriage.
Still, when when we asked if she’d recommend this trial open relationship to other married women, Robin told us, “Not if they want to stay married.” And Scott, it would seem, agrees.
“My Husband Let Me Take A Year Off From Our Marriage and Here’s What Happened”